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What Exactly is Gaslighting and Are You a Victim?
Gaslighting is a term that has gained attention in recent years, especially in discussions surrounding toxic relationships and psychological manipulation. The term “gaslighting” originates from the play and film “Gaslight,” where a husband manipulates his wife into questioning her own reality. The concept was further popularized by the 1944 film adaptation starring Ingrid Bergman. The term “gaslighting” was coined to describe a form of psychological manipulation where the perpetrator seeks to sow seeds of doubt in the victim, making them question their own perceptions and sanity. It is a tactic often used by abusive individuals to gain control and power over others by undermining their confidence and sense of reality.…
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Conflict–The Way Out is (Talking) Through
I have met very few people in my lifetime who actually enjoy conflict. For many, conflict is something they avoid at all costs. This is because conflict often brings emotional discomfort, as it involves facing different opinions, or tensions that can be hard to navigate. Sometimes we fear consequences that may result from conflict, such as hurt in relationships, rejection, or even professional repercussions. Conflict, even on a good day, can cause stress and anxiety–especially if you avoid important issues in the name of “keeping the peace” or not “rocking the boat.” Before I dive into how to address and resolve conflict in a healthy, productive way, let’s first talk…
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Overcome Codependency to Feel More Confident
Heal and break free of people-pleasing patterns with proven strategies, therapy insights, and steps towards healthier relationships. Let’s dive into a deep and personal adventure, shall we? Understanding the codependent actions that can cause a problem in our relationships. That overwhelming urge to make everyone else happy. We can learn how to beat codependency by using some cognitive behavioral therapy tactics. We will discuss how setting boundaries can stop people-pleasing behaviors and heal relationships. Today, I will share some tips and tricks for anyone looking for effective strategies to help you become more independent and have meaningful, mutually satisfying relationships. Exploring the Roots of Codependent Behaviors and People-Pleasing Tendencies Do…
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Crafting a Bond That Lasts: Building Love and Respect to Create Lasting Relationships
Discover how love intertwines with respect to forge stronger bonds in relationships and the key to nurturing mutual appreciation. Love…. the one topic that always catches the attention of both married and single people alike. It’s hard to find love in the first place, but then how do you keep that love alive? Love is not enough. This idea of “Love & Respect” written in Dr. Emerson Eggerich’s “Love & Respect book series has everyone thinking about different ways we should be communicating in a relationship. Everyone wants that special blend of warm, fuzzy vibes that connect with deep admiration to create an emotional bond that syncs two people together.…
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The Enlightened Couple
Thousands of years ago, the Buddhist Zen Master Yunmen was asked, “What is enlightenment?”. Yunmen’s reply was simple: “An appropriate response.” Seems easy enough, right? How does a couple live an enlightened relationship? Is it possible that if we simply have an appropriate response, that all of our arguments and relational angst will wash away? Maybe. If you’re like me, though, you might be taking note that you are only nominally familiar with Zen Buddhist teachings, though they seem peaceful and wonderful. And you certainly are feeling a little far from enlightened, and definitely a little less than polished when it comes to finding the appropriate response. What is an…
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5 Benefits of Premarital Counseling
Deciding who you will spend the rest of your life with is one of the most serious decisions you will ever make. Planning a wedding requires a lot of time, energy, and money to get all of the details for your big day just right. However, planning for an actual marriage goes far beyond the wedding day. If you and your future spouse would like to build a love that lasts a lifetime, consider the following benefits to seeking premarital counseling: Provides an Opportunity to Address Issues Oftentimes, having necessary conversations about serious marriage topics can be uncomfortable and challenging for couples to navigate alone. Premarital counseling is a great…
