“I Cried Today”: A Therapist’s Reflection on Singleness

Today, as I sat at my kitchen table catching up on some work, the sound of children’s playful laughter drifted into my home, and bubbles from my neighbor’s backyard floated gently into mine. It was a delight to see the kids out enjoying their school break, without a care in the world. 

— And then, I cried. 

Because in that moment, I was reminded of what I don’t have. There’s no giggles filling my home. No one to share meals with or to tell about my day. There’s just me and the silence.

As a therapist, I often sit with people in their pain, helping them process it without shame or fear of judgment. But the truth is, I also sit with my own pain too. And sometimes, like today, it spills over – uninvited and unexpected. 

— And then, I prayed. 

I prayed for my future husband, like I have so many times before. I prayed that God would send him my way, and that He would prepare my heart and life to receive him. Then, my prayers shifted to thankfulness for all God has done for me. He’s been my anchor through every season, and this one is no different. 

— And then, I felt peace. 

I may not understand this season that feels never-ending, but I choose to have joy and contentment, even in the absence of what I long for. God promised He would give me the desires of my heart as I delight in Him. So I hold onto that hope, and I am confident He will make good on His promises to me.

To Anyone Else Who’s Cried Today

Please know you’re not alone. As a therapist, I see so many people who feel stuck in the gap of disappointment—when the reality of where they are doesn’t align with the expectation of where they want to be. These moments can feel heavy, and it’s okay to cry. You’re human, and your feelings are valid. 

Take a deep breath. Show yourself some grace. And remember that there’s a purpose in this season, even though it doesn’t look like what you envisioned. In the waiting, you are still learning, still growing, still evolving, and still so deeply loved. 

How Therapy Can Support You Through the Wait

If you’re in a season of waiting and it’s starting to feel like too much to carry alone, therapy can provide a space for you to: 

• Process the grief of unmet expectations 
• Identify and heal from past relational wounds 
• Develop healthy coping strategies for managing the uncertainty
• Explore your values and set goals for the future 

If you’re looking for someone to walk alongside you in the waiting, I’d be honored to support you in your journey.

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