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Life Transitions: 5 Ways to Rediscover Yourself in Times of Change
I’ll never forget the moment I transitioned into a new role in my career in 2018. For so long, I had been responsible for others—leading a team, guiding a program, carrying the weight of decisions and outcomes. And then, one day, I found myself in a position where my responsibility was only to myself and the people I served. It was a shift I didn’t fully anticipate. At first, it felt like a loss—an identity I had built for so long was no longer there. I had spent almost 5 years shaping the direction of others, and now, I had more time to breathe, more space to think. It felt…
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What Is the Connection Between Sleep and Mental Health?
In our pursuit of mental wellness, we often prioritize therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes, yet we frequently overlook a cornerstone of mental health: sleep. Insufficient or poor-quality sleep can have profound effects on our psychological well-being, impacting mood, cognitive performance, and overall mental health. Understanding the importance of sleep and recognizing lesser-known sleep disorders can pave the way to a healthier mind. The Importance of Sleep According to the National Sleep Foundation, adults require 7-9 hours of sleep per night to function optimally. Lack of sleep can lead to anxiety, irritability, and a decreased ability to manage stress. Studies have shown that sleep deprivation can exacerbate conditions such as depression…
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How to Find Yourself: 3 Ways to Reclaim What Makes You Happy
There are lots of reasons why we may have lost ourselves: grief, trauma, parenthood, co-dependency, etc. This is why some of the most common goals I hear from my clients are “I want to find myself again,” “I want to figure out who I am,” and “I want to find what makes me happy.” It’s such an uneasy feeling not to feel connected to who you are, so let’s talk about ways to re-establish that connection. 3 Ways to Help You Find Yourself Again 1. Time Alone It can be difficult to hear our own inner voice when there is so much stimulus happening around us. Take time to be…
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How Do I Make Friends as an Adult?
This is a question I have been asked by so many of my clients: “How can I make friends as an adult?” As a society, we are lonelier than ever, and so many of us feel like we don’t even know where to start to try and change that. I hear this from young adults who have entered the workforce and don’t know how to connect with people outside of a school environment. I hear this from stay-at-home moms who feel isolated and like they only have their partner. And also from older adults who realize they don’t have anyone to talk to now that their kids are out of…
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3 Simple Shifts to Redefine Fear in 2025
The other day, my teenage daughter insisted on a Walmart run because our fridge was basically empty. I wasn’t in the mood to go inside, so I let her shop while I took a much-needed moment to myself. As I sat scrolling through social media reels, I stumbled upon a story that captured my attention—a woman named Wiebke Lühmann had spent the last year biking all the way from Germany to the tip of Cape Town in South Africa. Having traveled to Africa myself, I immediately thought, Wow, that is one huge undertaking. The continent is so vast and diverse—it’s not exactly a walk in the park. My second thought…
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How Is Talking to a Therapist Different From Talking to a Friend?
This is one of the questions I get asked most frequently as a therapist: Why would I see a professional when I have my best friend with whom I can talk about my problems? What can a therapist do for me that I don’t get from venting to my spouse? I have even heard, “My dog is my therapist.” What’s the point in going to see a therapist? There are distinct differences in speaking to a professional and speaking to someone you know personally. Talking to a therapist should look very different from talking to a friend, so let’s get into those differences. 5 Key Differences Between Talking to a…
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Life Isn’t Either-Or: The Power of Dialectical Thinking
In life, we’re often taught to think in “either-or” terms: either I’m happy or I need to change; either I focus on others or take time for myself. This way of thinking can feel limiting, making it seem like every decision means letting go of something important. But in reality, opposites can exist side by side—and learning to embrace this idea can lead to a more balanced, fulfilling life. This approach is known as dialectical thinking. How Dialectical Thinking Works Dialectical thinking encourages us to hold two seemingly opposing truths at once. It’s a mindset that helps us stay flexible and open to new perspectives. For example, consider the idea…
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The 3 P’s of Helping New Moms Postpartum
Before I had my daughter, I had no idea how to support the new moms in my life during postpartum. I wanted to show up and be helpful but did not want to insert myself. Would they want visitors? Or would they feel like they need to host me? Should I cook for them? What if they don’t like what I make and I just give them more stuff they need to throw away? Fast forward to the month after I had my baby. To me with dirty hair, a sink full of dishes, and not knowing what day it was. I found as I went through my own (rough)…
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Navigating Life After Divorce: How to Heal and Move Forward
Divorce can be one of life’s most challenging experiences, leaving you feeling lost, overwhelmed, and uncertain about the future. However, many people find that with time, patience, and the right strategies, they can rebuild their lives and emerge stronger than before. I want to emphasize the importance of professional guidance, maintaining a healthy environment for children, prioritizing mental health, and embracing self-care. 6 Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Life After Divorce Here are some essential guidelines for managing life after divorce: 1. Choose the Right Attorney One of the first steps in navigating divorce is finding a good attorney. Your lawyer will play a crucial role in guiding you through…
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Breaking Free: The Power of Letting Go
Letting go is often one of the hardest things we face in life. Whether it’s a relationship, a job, or a personal project, the thought of walking away can fill us with fear and uncertainty. Yet, sometimes, letting go is exactly what we need to do to make room for growth and positive change. A concept that often keeps us attached to situations that no longer serve us is the sunk cost fallacy. What Is the Sunk Cost Fallacy? The sunk cost fallacy is a psychological phenomenon where people continue to invest in something because of the time, money, or effort they’ve already put into it, even when it no…
