The phrases “Just let yourself feel your feelings” and “It’s okay to feel all the feels” are really popular in the mental health space and online, but for many of us this does not come naturally. Some of us try to distract ourselves from things that make us feel. Some try to logically think things through without stopping to see what emotions we are actually having. And some don’t have the language to even understand what we are feeling when we do, so we have a difficult time understanding where we stand on things. If you resonate with any of these things, there are 3 questions that I ask my…